Many of us hold the belief that emotions are good or bad, right or wrong, positive or negative. Common statements I hear from folks struggling with emotions are:
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You might sometimes find yourself wondering, “What am I supposed to talk about in therapy today?” This question can bring up a lot of discomfort, particularly when you know you have an hour where the focus is going to be on you! We share 5 tips to help you make the most of your time.
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I often hear people talk about the holidays in black and white terms. I’m going to be “bad” by eating whatever I want (i.e. Halloween candy, bingeing on Thanksgiving, and holiday treats). This is usually followed with extreme rigidity in both eating and exercise after New Years. Neither of these mindsets feel good. Either you are experiencing an immense amount of guilt and apathy or restriction and deprivation in order to compensate. So what do we do?
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No matter what we try, our mind has a curious tendency to present us with negative and distressing thoughts at inopportune times. Our attempts to control that flow of bad thoughts can be pretty frustrating. Here’s how to get un-stuck.
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What’s it like to be alone with your thoughts? For some of us, it can be a pretty scary time. Whether we’re trying to get back to sleep at 3 a.m., trying to sit down and focus on a school or work assignment, or just waiting in line at the DMV, our mind tends to give us a lotto think about. Take Josh, from “Crazy Ex-Girlfriend”
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Today, we rely on dating apps where we are exposed to hundreds of possible connections at a time. We spend our time swiping and engaging in repetitive small talk. It’s only natural to experience burnout after multiple rejections; but what if these disappointing situations could decrease in frequency or be avoided altogether?
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What do you think of when you think about “going to therapy?” If you’re like me, your mind might go to the image of laying on a couch and talking to a therapist about your childhood, the dream you had last night, or the latest argument you got into with a friend or partner.
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In our first session together, I ask my clients, “Given what you know about yourself, what might you do during the course of treatment that could get in the way of progress?”
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At the end of our work together, my clients are often surprised to find that one of the tools they find most helpful looks a lot like doing absolutely nothing. I am referring to the mindfulness technique of Observing.
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Decades of research has shown that social connections are as important to our survival and wellbeing as the need for food, safety, and shelter. It makes perfect sense that we are motivated to do whatever we can to fulfill our need to belong.
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Last week I was facilitating a weekly group for six of my clients—all very high-functioning 20 and 30 something women. All of these women have successful careers, multi-faceted interests, and numerous accomplishments. All of them tell themselves they are not good enough.
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Most people enter therapy with the goal of feeling better. Many of my clients tell me, “I just want to be happy.” Makes sense. Who wouldn’t want to feel happy? But what if I told you, that in order to feel happy, we also need to be willing to feel pain. In other words—we can’t “feel better” without first getting better at feeling.
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According to Forbes.com, 40% of Americans make resolutions each year, but only 8% follow through on them. In working with my clients, I've found that there are five primary factors that get in the way of people following through on what they say they want to do or change.
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Whether or not you are excited or nervous about the upcoming holiday, you can use this exercise to create a more meaningful vision of your holiday, to clarify your values, and to stay focused on what matters most.
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The holidays are a time filled with family events and togetherness. Without appropriate boundaries, this time of year could lead to more tears than cheer. Here is a list of 10 ways to set healthy boundaries this holiday season.
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