Unpacking Anti-Fat Bias
For many of us growing up in America, we were taught that fatness was an illness to be feared and avoided, and we were also led to believe that our weight was easy to control through food and exercise. These narratives completely disregard the numerous other factors that contribute to our weight (like biology, heredity, access to preventative medical care, socioeconomic status, access to nutritionally diverse food, and mental health just to name a few), and ignore the fact that intentional weight loss has a 95% failure rate.
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How to Give Your Therapist Feedback
The therapeutic relationship, like every relationship, sometimes needs work. But how exactly can you give your therapist feedback? Marijke Wijnen shares five tips to help navigate the conversation.
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One Year into Pandemic: How Dialectical Thinking Can Help
There’s an interesting mixture of emotions right now--so much that feels old, and also a new glimmer of hope for what is to come on the horizon. It’s a wonderful time to use dialectical thinking.
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Myths and Realities of Intuitive Eating
Intuitive Eating has gained wide-spread popularity among many people looking to heal their relationship with food and to regain trust in their body’s needs and wants. To many of our clients who are deeply entrenched in diet culture (i.e. the belief that being smaller means greater health and wellness) Intuitive Eating can seem like a foreign language. Below we’ve outlined the myths we hear most about Intuitive Eating from our clients, and the true facts about how these 10 principles can work to heal the toxic relationships many people hold with food and their bodies.
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What if I Give Covid to my Parents? And Other Guilt Provoking Thoughts
As things have opened back up, I’m noticing more and more people talking about COVID guilt - the anticipatory guilt of possibly giving COVID to someone else. What if I have COVID and I don’t realize it? What if I give COVID to my parents? Or to my high risk colleague? Or to my pregnant friend?
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Coping With Uncertainty in Challenging Times
In this video, our therapists provide tools and skills for coping with uncertainty during tough times.
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How to Deal with Quarantine Boredom (or Boredom Any Time)
During this time of sheltering at home, many people are experiencing something they’ve never encountered before— too much time on their hands. In this video, Lindan and Tory address the benefits of boredom, how to cultivate new hobbies as an adult, and ways to move from “doing” to “being.”
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Grief and Gratitude
In times of loss our world becomes very small; all we can focus on is what we are lacking. Gratitude creates an expansion where we can suddenly hold both our suffering and the things we have to be grateful for at the same time.
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Loneliness in the Time of Lockdown
Many of us are living alone during the Covid19 lockdown, and feelings of loneliness may be exacerbated right now. In this video, Betsy and Lindan share insights and support for those who are living alone during lockdown.
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Love in the time of Quarantine
How is your relationship right now? How’s it going being in close quarters with your partner 24/7? In this video, our therapists share tips for tending to your relationship and offer skills for managing relationship conflicts that will inevitably arise during this stressful time.
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Using Emotions as Data
Many of us hold the belief that emotions are good or bad, right or wrong, positive or negative. Common statements I hear from folks struggling with emotions are:
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What to Talk about in Therapy on 'Good Weeks'
You might sometimes find yourself wondering, “What am I supposed to talk about in therapy today?” This question can bring up a lot of discomfort, particularly when you know you have an hour where the focus is going to be on you! We share 5 tips to help you make the most of your time.
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Four Tips for Getting through the Holidays -- and Ditching the New Year Diet
I often hear people talk about the holidays in black and white terms. I’m going to be “bad” by eating whatever I want (i.e. Halloween candy, bingeing on Thanksgiving, and holiday treats). This is usually followed with extreme rigidity in both eating and exercise after New Years. Neither of these mindsets feel good. Either you are experiencing an immense amount of guilt and apathy or restriction and deprivation in order to compensate. So what do we do?
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How to Be Alone With Our Thoughts
No matter what we try, our mind has a curious tendency to present us with negative and distressing thoughts at inopportune times. Our attempts to control that flow of bad thoughts can be pretty frustrating. Here’s how to get un-stuck.
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Stopping Thoughts is a No Go Go
What’s it like to be alone with your thoughts? For some of us, it can be a pretty scary time. Whether we’re trying to get back to sleep at 3 a.m., trying to sit down and focus on a school or work assignment, or just waiting in line at the DMV, our mind tends to give us a lotto think about. Take Josh, from “Crazy Ex-Girlfriend”
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How to Date Without Burnout
Today, we rely on dating apps where we are exposed to hundreds of possible connections at a time. We spend our time swiping and engaging in repetitive small talk. It’s only natural to experience burnout after multiple rejections; but what if these disappointing situations could decrease in frequency or be avoided altogether?
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What is ACT?
What do you think of when you think about “going to therapy?” If you’re like me, your mind might go to the image of laying on a couch and talking to a therapist about your childhood, the dream you had last night, or the latest argument you got into with a friend or partner.
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Getting Un-Stuck in Therapy
In our first session together, I ask my clients, “Given what you know about yourself, what might you do during the course of treatment that could get in the way of progress?”
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Breaking Free from Destructive Habits
At the end of our work together, my clients are often surprised to find that one of the tools they find most helpful looks a lot like doing absolutely nothing. I am referring to the mindfulness technique of Observing.
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Eating Disorders Breed Disconnection
Decades of research has shown that social connections are as important to our survival and wellbeing as the need for food, safety, and shelter. It makes perfect sense that we are motivated to do whatever we can to fulfill our need to belong.
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