We created an 8-week group course in 2019 to help people navigate today’s confusing dating landscape and learn how to date more effectively. The dating terrain may be ever-changing, but the importance of figuring out what we are looking for in a partner hasn’t changed. Once we have identified how our ideal partner would be in a relationship, we can be clear on whether or not these values are showing up in the early stages of dating.
Read MoreDoes your mind get particularly busy when you lie down at night? Do you find yourself obsessing about the past, worrying about the future, or comparing yourself to others? Do you wish you could just turn your brain off at night?
If you answered yes to one of these questions, you are not alone! Racing thoughts are one of the most common complaints we get. During the day, we are busy attending to jobs, finances, school, responsibilities, and relationships. When uncomfortable thoughts and feelings show up, we quickly find ways to escape them.
Read MoreTypically, when I talk with a client about not having motivation, we’re talking about doing something unpleasant or uncomfortable (e.g., going to the gym, sticking to that intense meal prep plan, studying for the exam next week.) We rarely talk about a lack of motivation to see friends, play video games, or go on that beach vacation you’ve got coming up
Read MoreFor many of us growing up in America, we were taught that fatness was an illness to be feared and avoided, and we were also led to believe that our weight was easy to control through food and exercise. These narratives completely disregard the numerous other factors that contribute to our weight (like biology, heredity, access to preventative medical care, socioeconomic status, access to nutritionally diverse food, and mental health just to name a few), and ignore the fact that intentional weight loss has a 95% failure rate.
Read MoreThe therapeutic relationship, like every relationship, sometimes needs work. But how exactly can you give your therapist feedback? Marijke Wijnen shares five tips to help navigate the conversation.
Read MoreThere’s an interesting mixture of emotions right now--so much that feels old, and also a new glimmer of hope for what is to come on the horizon. It’s a wonderful time to use dialectical thinking.
Read MoreIntuitive Eating has gained wide-spread popularity among many people looking to heal their relationship with food and to regain trust in their body’s needs and wants. To many of our clients who are deeply entrenched in diet culture (i.e. the belief that being smaller means greater health and wellness) Intuitive Eating can seem like a foreign language. Below we’ve outlined the myths we hear most about Intuitive Eating from our clients, and the true facts about how these 10 principles can work to heal the toxic relationships many people hold with food and their bodies.
Read MoreAs things have opened back up, I’m noticing more and more people talking about COVID guilt - the anticipatory guilt of possibly giving COVID to someone else. What if I have COVID and I don’t realize it? What if I give COVID to my parents? Or to my high risk colleague? Or to my pregnant friend?
Read MoreIn this video, our therapists provide tools and skills for coping with uncertainty during tough times.
Read MoreDuring this time of sheltering at home, many people are experiencing something they’ve never encountered before— too much time on their hands. In this video, Lindan and Tory address the benefits of boredom, how to cultivate new hobbies as an adult, and ways to move from “doing” to “being.”
Read MoreIn times of loss our world becomes very small; all we can focus on is what we are lacking. Gratitude creates an expansion where we can suddenly hold both our suffering and the things we have to be grateful for at the same time.
Read MoreMany of us are living alone during the Covid19 lockdown, and feelings of loneliness may be exacerbated right now. In this video, Betsy and Lindan share insights and support for those who are living alone during lockdown.
Read MoreHow is your relationship right now? How’s it going being in close quarters with your partner 24/7? In this video, our therapists share tips for tending to your relationship and offer skills for managing relationship conflicts that will inevitably arise during this stressful time.
Read MoreMany of us hold the belief that emotions are good or bad, right or wrong, positive or negative. Common statements I hear from folks struggling with emotions are:
Read MoreYou might sometimes find yourself wondering, “What am I supposed to talk about in therapy today?” This question can bring up a lot of discomfort, particularly when you know you have an hour where the focus is going to be on you! We share 5 tips to help you make the most of your time.
Read MoreI often hear people talk about the holidays in black and white terms. I’m going to be “bad” by eating whatever I want (i.e. Halloween candy, bingeing on Thanksgiving, and holiday treats). This is usually followed with extreme rigidity in both eating and exercise after New Years. Neither of these mindsets feel good. Either you are experiencing an immense amount of guilt and apathy or restriction and deprivation in order to compensate. So what do we do?
Read MoreNo matter what we try, our mind has a curious tendency to present us with negative and distressing thoughts at inopportune times. Our attempts to control that flow of bad thoughts can be pretty frustrating. Here’s how to get un-stuck.
Read MoreWhat’s it like to be alone with your thoughts? For some of us, it can be a pretty scary time. Whether we’re trying to get back to sleep at 3 a.m., trying to sit down and focus on a school or work assignment, or just waiting in line at the DMV, our mind tends to give us a lotto think about. Take Josh, from “Crazy Ex-Girlfriend”
Read MoreToday, we rely on dating apps where we are exposed to hundreds of possible connections at a time. We spend our time swiping and engaging in repetitive small talk. It’s only natural to experience burnout after multiple rejections; but what if these disappointing situations could decrease in frequency or be avoided altogether?
Read MoreWhat do you think of when you think about “going to therapy?” If you’re like me, your mind might go to the image of laying on a couch and talking to a therapist about your childhood, the dream you had last night, or the latest argument you got into with a friend or partner.
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